Healing Trauma Resources

List of Compassionate Inquiry (CI) Practitioners
Books on mind/body unity, illness, chronic pain, addiction, trauma, healing, literary
Books on Parenting
Books on Grief
Books on Plant Medicine
Plant Medicine Retreat Centers
Psychedelic Therapy Training (for practitioners)
Parenting Group
Research papers referenced
Web Pages
“Learning to Say ‘No’ Questions” from Gabor

List of Compassionate Inquiry (CI) Practitioners

List of Compassionate Inquiry (CI) Practitioners offering sessions after the online retreat

Books on mind/body unity, illness, chronic pain, addiction, trauma, healing, literary

  • A.H Almaas – The Diamond Heart Series, especially Vol. One: Elements of the Real in Man
  • Michael Brown – The Presence Process
  • Mark Epstein – The Trauma of Everyday Life
  • Abolqasem Ferdowsi – Shahnameh: The Persian Book of Kings
  • Tirzah Firestone – Wounds Into Wisdom: Healing Intergenerational Jewish Trauma
  • Erich Fromm – The Art of Loving; To Have Or To Be; The Sane Society
  • Alan Gordon – The Way Out: Approach to Healing Chronic Pain
  • Susan Griffin – A Chorus of Stones: The Private Life of War
  • Helen Knott – In My Own Moccasins: A Memoir of ResilienceStephen Porges – The Polyvagal Theory (for professionals)
  • Peter Levine – Waking The Tiger; In An Unspoken Voice
  • Jean Liedoff – The Continuum Concept: In Search of Happiness Lost
  • Gabor Maté – When The Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress (U.S. subtitle: Exploring the Stress/Disease Connection)
  • Gabor Maté – In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters With Addiction
  • Gabor Maté – Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder  (U.S. title: Scattered: How ADD Originates and What You Can Do About It)
  • Gabor Maté – The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture
  • Anita Morjani – Dying to Be Me
  • Steve Ozanich – The Great Pain Deception
  • Jaak Panksepp – Affective Neuroscience: The Foundations of Human and Animal Emotions
  • M. Scott Peck – The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth
  • Betsy Polatin – The Actor’s Secret
  • Betsy Polatin – Humanual
  • Jeffrey Rediger – Cured: The Life-Changing Science of Spontaneous Healing
  • Rainer Maria Rilke – Letters to a Young Poet
  • Marshall Rosenberg – Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)
  • John Sarno: The Mindbody Prescription: Healing The Body, Healing the Pain
  • Daniel Siegel – The Developing Mind
  • Jesse Thistle – From the Ashes: My Story of Being Métis, Homeless, and Finding My Way
  • Eckhart Tolle – A New Earth and The Power of Now
  • Dr. Kelly Turner – Radical Remission: Surviving Cancer Against All Odds
  • Bessel van der Kolk – The Body Keeps the Score
  • Richard Schwartz – No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with Internal Family Systems Model
  • Mark Wolynn – It Didn’t Start With You

Books on Parenting

  • Alfie Kohn – Punished By Rewards
  • Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté – Hold On To Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
  • Shefali Tsabary – The Conscious Parent; The Awakened Family
  • Daniel Siegel & Mary Hartzell – Parenting From The Inside Out

Books on Grief

  • Joanne Cacciatore – Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief
  • Francis Weller – The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief

Books on Plant/Psychedelic Medicine

  • Françoise Bourzat – Consciousness Medicine: Indigenous Wisdom, Entheogens, and Expanded States of Consciousness for Healing and Growth
  • Michael Pollan – How to Change Your Mind
  • Joseph Tafur – The Fellowship of the River: A Medical Doctor’s Exploration into Traditional Amazonian Plant Medicine

Plant Medicine / Psychedelic Medicine Clinical Studies, Clinics, and Retreat Centers

Psychedelic Therapy Training (for practitioners)

Parenting Group

Research Papers Referenced

  • Jack P. Shonkoff et al., An Integrated Scientific Framework for Child Survival and Early Childhood Development, Pediatrics, 2012:129:1-13


  • René Aubry: Sirtaki à Helsinki
  • René Aubry: Séduction
  • René Aubry: Fil de Verre
  • René Aubry: Guitare Bambou
  • Sara Bareilles: Saint Honesty
  • The Beatles: Help
  • Johnny Cash: In Your Mind
  • Jacqueline Dupré. Elgar: Cello Concerto in E Minor, Op. 85: I. Adagio – Moderato
  • Ludovico Einaudi: Nuvole Bianche
  • G.I. Gurdjieff: Voyages vers des Lieux inaccessibles
  • Julia Hamari, Erbarme Dich: Matthäus -Passion Johann Sebastian Bach
  • Mahalia Jackson: Summertime / Sometimes I feel like a motherless child
  • Eleni Karaindrou: Ulysses’ Gaze: 12. Ulysses’ Theme – Var. 4
  • Jerry Lee Lewis: Whole Lotta Shaking Going On
  • John Lennon: Gimme Some Truth
  • Yo-Yo Ma: Cello Suite No.1 in G Major, BWV 1007: I. Prélude. Johan Sebastian Bach
  • Elvis Presley: Anyway You Want Me
  • Elvis Presley: Jailhouse Rock
  • Tom Rosenthal: Hugging You
  • Mercedes Sosa: Gracias a la vida
  • Yann Tiersen: Comptine d’un autre été, l’après-midi
  • Estas Tonne: Winter Solstice Dreaming (Live)
  • Vassilis Tsabropoulos: Tale of a Man
  • Shigeru Umebayashi: Yumeji’s Theme In The Mood for Love

Spotify Playlist


Gabor has many talks and interviews on YouTube on subjects covered in this retreat, for which no fee or subscription are required. A few examples:

Web Pages

Learning to say “No” Questions from Gabor

  1. Where in my life do I have difficulty saying no?
  2. What is the impact of me not saying no?
  3. What was the belief behind my inability to say no? (hidden belief) Where did I learn this belief?
  4. What am I not saying yes to? To an inner calling? just as damaging as not saying no
  5. Who would I be if I didn’t have these beliefs?


“The child is very open, and can feel the pain and suffering going on in its immediate environment. The child is aware of its own body and can also feel the tension, rigidity and pain in the body of the mother or of anyone else he’s with.. If the mother is suffering, the baby suffers too. The pain never gets discharged.
The organism does not develop the confidence that it can regulate itself, that things will happen the way they should. If the pain and frustration continue, they will have a disintegrating effect on the organism, and the child will begin to experience organismic fear for its very survival.
( …) If we can regain the capacity to spontaneously charge and discharge, if we can change the rejection pattern and reconnect with our natural confidence and trust, we call that self-realization…”
— A. H. Almaas

“Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. That part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going to go in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side, telling you, “Look here! This way!” That part of you loves you so much that it doesn’t want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don’t listen. What else can it do? That is its purpose…”
— A. H. Almaas

“The fundamental thing that happened, and the greatest calamity, is not that there was no love or support. The greater calamity, which was caused by that first calamity, is that you lost the connection to your essence. That is much more important than whether your mother or father loved you or not.”
— A. H. Almaas

“The greater calamity, which is caused by the first calamity is that you lost the connection to your essence. That is much more important than whether your mother or father loved you or not.”
— A. H. Almaas

“To be black and conscious in America is to be in a constant state of rage.”
— James Baldwin

“Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced” 
— James Baldwin

“Developmental trauma can make us all feel like a motherless child”
— Mark Epstein

“The troubling nature of censorship is clearer when it falls on the very young. A certain kind of silence, that which comes from holding back the truth, is abusive itself to the child. The soul has a natural movement toward knowledge, so that not to know can be to despair. In the paucity of explanation for a mood, a look, a gesture, the child takes the blame, and thus carries a guilt for circumstances beyond childish influence.”
— Susan Griffin, A Chorus of Stones

“Ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free”
— King James Version of the Bible, John 8:32.

“Wanting to reform the world without discovering one’s true self is like trying to cover the world with leather to avoid the pain of walking on stones and thorns. It is much simpler to wear shoes.”
— Ramana Maharshi

“The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated, and conceptions confused, and our body tricked with medication. But someday our body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child, who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth.”
— Alice Miller

“The fact that something is difficult must be one more reason to do it”
— Rainer Maria Rilke

“And you should not let yourself be confused in your solitude by the fact that there is some thing in you that wants to move out of it. This very wish, if you use it calmly and prudently and like a tool, will help you spread out your solitude over a great distance. Most people have (with the help of conventions) turned their solutions toward what is easy and toward the easiest side of the easy; but it is clear that we must trust in what is difficult; everything alive trusts in it, everything, in Nature grows and defends itself any way it can and is spontaneously itself, tries to be itself at all costs and against all opposition. We know little, but that we must trust in what is difficult is a certainty that will never abandon us; it is good to be solitary, for solitude is difficult; that something is difficult must be one more reason for us to do it.”
— Rainer Maria Rilke

“Shutting the door of your own home won’t make it safe. But maybe you can shut the door on yourself. Hide in one of those rooms, maybe even the attic. Crawl inside and take cover from the hurt. After a while, with any luck, no one will even notice that you have been gone… All that is left to decide is when, if ever, to re-emerge.”
— Thane Rosenbaum

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