Deleting the App, The New Ritual of Commitment

Speaking at the 2018 Radiant Intimacy gathering, Esther Perel outlines the remarkable transformation of romantic relationships in the last one hundred years. She makes the distinction between sexuality and eroticism, emphasizing that sex is not something we do, but somewhere we go – to find through the erotic a place to rediscover the vibrancy and vitality that we long for. Finally she points to the standard relationship model of contemporary society, which she calls Stable Ambiguity – just enough connection not to be alone, not so much connection to forego our freedom – the perfect role for the dating app.